Grandparents (September 28, 2012)

As noted earlier, there are so many great things that I've experienced in being a dad. One of the coolest, and one that new parents perhaps think the least about prior to the birth of their children, is seeing the grandparent-child and great-grandparent-child relationship. 

My wife and I have had the pleasure over the last few weeks of having her parents and my parents visit, and during these visits, I became more aware than ever of how special it is to see someone else love your child the way that you do. 

It gives us a chance to see for ourselves how much our parents loved us as children.

Seeing such love is heartwarming and symbolizes how a baby can bring people together and give them something incredible to share...and even remind them of something incredible that they once shared. 


So I guess the point of all of this is to remind everyone to let your parents be a part of your child's life. You never know how long you have, and you never know how it will bring everyone closer.

Here's a picture of my mother with my daughter, demonstrating the love that i witnesses from both my wife's family and my family during the month of September.

Take care, everyone!

Smiling, Not Sleeping (September 21, 2012)

Hello again! It has been exactly one month since the last update on the site. A lot has happened since then, and I want to go ahead and say that it will definitely not be a month until the next update.  From now on, there will be a new post on The Birthday Perspective every Friday!

I wrote a song yesterday with the help of Harbor, so if I can find some time to record a higher quality video this time around, that will be next week's update. If not, you will hear the song in the not too distant future. It's a bit better than "You Are My Bay," due to me spending a half hour writing it instead of a half minute. Still, a half hour is a far cry from the amount of time I used to spend writing songs. 

So ... this week's update is about some of the funny moments I've had while parenting. Although there have been a variety of funny moments with my charismatic little girl, i've been surprised recently at the timing of her comedy: bed time.

While holding my darling Harbor and rocking her to sleep, I have to be very careful not to make too much eye contact with her. Some reading might ask, "But eye contact is good, right?". Yes, eye contact is generally good; in fact, I've spent many an hour teaching college students about the importance of eye contact and other nonverbal communication in public speaking situations. However, when the goal is for a 4 and 1/2 month old to nap, eye contact can be a very, very, dangerous (yet comedic thing). In my case, making eye contact with Harbor while rocking her to sleep often results in a huge, mischievous smile from my angelic girl. Immediately. There is no opportunity to quickly look away before her smile lights up the room that once was dark so as to encourage sleep. 

So when I begin to rock her and see that she is starting to nod off, I make it a point to look away for five to ten minutes at the time. i look at the wall; i think about Auburn's chance at success in football this season; I read on my cell phone; I do a little bit of everything to distract myself from making direct eye contact with the charming baby in my arms. After a suitable amount of time, I check to see if she is sleeping....SMILE! Perhaps she detects my movement and thinks we are in the midst of a game (that clearly she is winning). Perhaps she thinks she's rocking me to sleep and is smiling at how long it is taking me to dose off. Who knows?

All i know is in that moment when our eyes meet and the smile grows across her face, the world is a beautiful, beautiful place ... and sleep can wait.

So Sing Me a Song, Piano Baby (August 21, 2012)

Necessity is the mother of invention ... so the cliche goes. Today I found myself thinking of that phrase as I struggled to find a way to keep the baby happy until her bottle was ready. A nearby out-of-tune acoustic guitar served as a musical pacifier in this case.

The results are in the video below; I apologize in advance for the so-so singing and repetitive lyrics, but hey, Harbor and I were making the song up as we went along!

Listen for her singing at around the 2:15  mark. And yes, Winslow the cat chimes in with an impressively timed "meow" just after the first chorus. I'm surrounded by so much talent!

Welcome to The Birthday Perspective (August 6, 2012)

Hello, and welcome to my blog: The Birthday Perspective! s noted in the "About" section of this site: 

This blog features updates on my daughter, Harbor, as she grows and does more and more incredible things every day. Additionally, it is a space for me to write about adjusting and transitioning to a stage of life that not many men in Western culture have experienced: staying at home with a child during the traditional work day. i will write about a number of topics (e.g., life, family, faith, music, games, movies), all through the lens or perspective of a newborn. I'm learning to see the world through my daughter's wonderful birthday perspective, and I welcome you to join me for the adventure.

i intend to write about all of the topics listed above while focusing especially on my daughter and different things I've learned while hanging out with her. Some of the upcoming posts will include looks at Harbor's favorite outfits, the best indie female-fronted alternative rock songs to play for a baby, finding time to eat, managing stressful parenting situations, pick-up-and play games for dads who have to stop playing games at a moment's notice when the baby is ready to party ... err, eat, and ell, I guess that is about it for now. Inspiration will strike frequently, and I will update as appropriate. Additionally, my amazing soulmate of over 10 years, Sarah, maintains a blog that focuses entirely on the kiddo if that is of interest to you. It can be found here

Although I will only be a stay-at-home father for a temporary period of time, it is something that I love and will cherish forever. Everything is changing, and for the first time that doesn't scare me. Perhaps that's the first lesson to learn: When change comes for the benefit of those you love (and who love you), it's simply a step in a different direction. And as long as the people you love are a part of the change, a new direction can be a beautiful thing.